When you are released from work, childcare, nursing care, etc., you can take a break and at the same time feel empty and lose your energy. This disorder is called “unloading syndrome”. It is very difficult, but if you overcome it, you will regain the will to live positively. Here are two tips for overcoming unloading syndrome.
Work, childcare, and nursing care are over… the emptiness that comes with relief
Until now, I have been working hard at work, but with the retirement of my position, retirement, and the end of my project, I have more and more free time. She suddenly wonders, “What happened to those busy days?”
Children become adults and members of society, and become independent. While I think “I’m glad I let go”, I’m caught up in a feeling of loneliness.
Nursing care that I have been doing for many years is over, and I am finally taking a break from being busy. I thought that I would finally be able to do various things from now on, but I don’t feel motivated to do anything…
In middle-aged and older people, it seems that more and more people experience the above-mentioned complicated feelings and find it difficult. Being freed from responsibilities such as work, child-rearing, and nursing care, people feel relieved, but at the same time, feelings of emptiness and loneliness surge over them, leading to depression. Many people find themselves in this situation.
“Unloading Syndrome”, a lethargic feeling after unloading a heavy load
In such a situation, one thing to watch out for is “unloading syndrome . ” It is a state of mind and body that makes you feel lethargic and lethargic as you are released from tension, just like when you put down a heavy burden that you have been carrying for a long time.
“Even though I gave up my days off and worked as hard as I could, in the end I was left with nothing…”
“The child simply left the parent’s home. ……”
“Now that my family is gone, what
kind of emotional support should I have for my life?” Some people feel a sense of emptiness without being found. There are many people who do not feel tired even after resting, cannot sleep well, and have no appetite.
I don’t want to do anything, I don’t want to see people.
There were so many things I wanted to do and places I wanted to visit in my spare time, but now that I have more time, nothing I see will move me, and no matter where I go, I won’t be satisfied. There are many people who are puzzled by the gap in their thoughts and sigh, “How can I get motivated?”
I don’t like meeting people, and I don’t want to go even if my friends invite me. Many people think so and hesitate to meet people. As a result, more and more people spend more time at home, and as they spend their days in daze, their legs and stamina deteriorate, and many people end up aging.
If the above condition continues, there is a possibility of mental illness such as depression, so it is recommended to consult a mental specialist first. At the same time, I will give you two tips to ease this pain, so please refer to them.
1) Stop and find the “right way of life” for yourself
For those who suffer from unloading syndrome, I think there are many people who have endured what they wanted to do until then and kept running with all their might. Think of it as a period of searching for your own “right way of life”.
The best way to know your own “right way of life” is to stop and think. Try to break down the word “correct”. It consists of “one” and “stop”. From the composition of this character, it can be said that it is necessary to “stop once” in order to understand what is right for me now.
Feelings like “I don’t want to do anything” or “I’m not interested in anything” may be a sign of my heart that I want to stop and think slowly without forcing myself to do something.
2) Do something that interests you at a “walking pace”
When you are conscious of 1), thoughts such as “I’m interested in this for some reason” and “I want to visit this place” will suddenly spring up in my heart. If you feel that way, do what you can.
Visit places you care about, read books you want to read, eat what you want to eat… Each one may be trivial, but if you put them together, the “right way of life” that you are seeking now may emerge clearly.
However, what you want to keep in mind is to do it at a “walking pace”. Instead of doing things quickly because you don’t have time, or doing things while you’re at it, try doing each thing slowly and carefully at a walking pace .
By the way, if you break down the kanji for “walk”, it consists of “a little” and “stop”. Stop and think after a little progress , let’s proceed with this pace in mind. If you take this step, I think there will come a moment when you realize the important things that you have overlooked so far.
Unloading Syndrome is painful, but if you go through it, you will often get important realizations that guide your way of life in the future. While using the above two hints, let’s move forward slowly with the feeling of exploring what your heart really wants.