What do you need to do to graduate from your “low mental age” and grow into an “adult self”? I will tell you the difference between “childish behavior” and “adult behavior”, the characteristics of people with low mental age, and five lessons I would like to recommend as a method to raise mental age.
What is the difference between “childish behavior” and “adult behavior”?
Is there anyone who looks like a fine adult on the outside, but when you start dating them, you feel like they’re “children”? Or maybe some of you feel that you might be that type yourself.
For example, when you have a dinner, you can say that it is adult-like behavior to encourage people around you to eat and to serve small plates before you eat. On the other hand, if you say, “This is mine!”
Also, I don’t listen to people until the end, and I’m always going to say, “I want to do this!” If you push through your desires, you will be thought to be “childish”.
Occasionally, you may receive positive feedback, such as, “That person is innocent and cute, isn’t she?” However, if you keep doing it over and over again, it may look childish and make you wonder if your mental age is low.
Everyone has a self-centered way of thinking when they are young. As the mind grows with age, the ability to imagine other people’s feelings and think about the background of actions increases, and as a result, the behavior of caring for others increases.
However, if the mind is not fully matured, even adults in terms of age will continue to have self-centered thoughts and actions that do not think about others. We may have a childish side without even realizing it. First of all, let’s take a look at the following items and see if there is anything on your mind. □ When things don’t go well, I tend
to think that it’s the fault of others and society. In addition , they do not want to do things that benefit others or society □ In conversations, they often only speak or listen unilaterally □ Make plans on their own initiative in a group □ I’m not good at conveying greetings, thanks, and apologies to others . , it is considered better to be conscious of becoming a mature adult as much as possible.
Then, what kind of things should I keep in mind in order to graduate from my childish self and grow into an adult both physically and mentally? Here are five lessons I would recommend.
■Lesson 1: Take unpleasant words first and think about the background
. Take your attitude seriously. Then, after you have calmed down, think about why you said those words, and the other person’s feelings and circumstances.
■Lesson 2: Think about what you can do rather than what they ca
n’t do for you. Reflect on whether you are strong and ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do?” And let’s do what we can.
■Lesson 3: Don’t get caught up in the bad things that happened in the past, focus on the future
. It’s natural to feel angry about these things, but if you let yourself get caught up in them, you won’t be able to move forward. When these feelings come to mind, admit your honest feelings by saying, “That time was definitely tough.”
■Lesson 4: Talk while respecting the feelings of both the other party and yourself
Communication is something that everyone enjoys. If you only talk about what you want to say without listening to the end of what others have to say, your communication skills will not grow. While cherishing the feelings of both the other person and myself, conveying each other’s thoughts. This method is called “assertion”.
■Lesson 5: Collaborate with others and experience mutual growth
The feeling of joy in making others happy is called the “principle of helper therapy.” Let’s think back on the smile of the other person, the words of gratitude, and the emotions we remembered at that time when we were kind to them. If you can genuinely feel that “making people happy is a pleasure”, you will naturally be able to take actions that are considerate of others, and your heart will mature into an adult.
When your heart grows into an adult, you will be admired by many people. The number of people who say “I want to talk to you” will increase, and the number of people who will be consulted will also increase. At times like these, rather than thinking, “It’s troublesome” or “It’s troublesome,” if you feel the joy of being useful to others, it’s proof that your heart has grown into an adult. I think.
By all means, be aware of the above lessons and feel the changes in your own feelings and relationships.